Hi there! I am Dr. Rachael Meir, your Contemporary Relationship Clini-Coach®!
I am a licensed Clinical Psychologist and a Certified Clinical Sexuality Coach with over 15 years of experience in the field. I earned my PsyD (Doctorate of Psychology) from the PGSP-Stanford PsyD Consortium and BA from the University of Colorado, Boulder.
I am sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming, BDSM/kink aware and I specialize in ethical/consensual non-monogamy, including swinging, open relationships, polyamory, and other unconventional or alternative relationships and lifestyles.
My extensive experience working with a wide range of clients and presenting issues has given me a deep understanding of the unique challenges faced by those who live outside the bounds of heteronormative sexual orientations and monogamous relationship structures.
As a bisexual woman living in a polyamorous triad relationship myself, I am dedicated to helping individuals and couples navigate the challenges of opening their relationships and successfully sustaining multiple sexual and romantic partnerships. I offer both individual and group coaching options to help my clients learn the necessary skills to overcome their insecurities and create secure and healthy relationships.
Just like you, I used to be curious about having a non-monogamous relationship.
I've been happily married to my husband, Aaron, for 17 years (together a total of 23 years!), but being a bisexual woman, there was something missing… and it wasn’t Aaron’s fault. It was simply because he isn’t a female, and he can’t change that. So early into our marriage, we found the swinging lifestyle which we explored for about a decade. But that still wasn’t enough because I wanted to have a deep, emotional connection with a woman, just like I had with Aaron as a man. So almost 4 years ago, we intentionally sought to meet another woman with whom we could form an equitable triad. And that's when we met Kasey.
We were met with a lot of stigma. Many people thought our relationship was strange or that it promoted disloyalty. Our families were scared that someone was running off with another, and leaving someone behind to get hurt. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Dr. Moors, co-chair of Committee of Consensual Non-Monogamy with the American Psychological Association, says that "Consensually non-monogamous relationships have really satisfying and committed and trusting relationships"—and we totally agree. We are happy, in love, and communicating better than ever!
And the truth is, non-monogamy isn’t even that uncommon. Many just prefer to be private about it because we often face discrimination and judgment. Or worse, consequences related to employment, child custody, or housing.
In fact, ENM is the ideal relationship style for a third of Americans.
I wasn’t always sure whether non-monogamy was right for me. But I’m so glad I found the courage to defy conformity, because I’ve found nothing but happiness.
So if you are ready to pursue an ethically non-monogamous relationship without fear, judgment, and jealousy…
Or would like to simply explore what it is all about, I am the perfect coach for you!